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March 1

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Blockage of Truth is when I have a picture in my mind of "YOU" causing my anger, or fear or pain.  That is a lie but calling a lie truth then keeps one from letting in the real Truth.  So the mind shows only the evidence that what one "sees" is truth and they/we will block out seeing anything different.  When stress is up what the non-being mind does (especially when they are approached with THE Truth) in that state is to do behaviors their Power Person did.  When I tell my mind that it is safe enough to see the truth then I will begin to see the edges of it until I obtain full truth and then everything changes: life, health, finances, relationships, etc.

Dementia and Alzheimers is sometimes a "check out" - too much stress to deal with the emotonal pain.  Cannot change symptoms, must change cause.  Remove the energy from the cell and it goes back to health.  Esther calls in, she wants to do something other than "buy into" the diagnosis that she has Alzheimers. 

 

March 2

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Recovery Wednesday!  In this intensive, complexities, conflicts and tragedies held in the mind have come forward in order to be freed of them.  However, where people do not have the tools it is near impossible to get to the point of healing.  michael reads an excerpt that describes hopelessness and the author actually thinks that is normal. 

Dr. Tim and Gail join us for recovery discussion. Dr Tim offers a process (http://www.ch4cs.com/media.asp) to "Saying goodbye to good people without saying goodbye to good memories" go to http://www.ch4cs.com/upload/saying_goodbye_to_good_people_-_handout.pdf for the pdf handout.

Examination of the messages from the tribe (book: "Not Under Forty" by Willa Cather) ties in with the Aramaic Be-Attitudes (Matthew 5).  Like searching a fearless inventory and confession in AA.

Gail reads from /references "Twelve Steps Twelve Traditions" an Alcoholics Anonymous book.

michael said it would be great if we could slip in the actual forgiveness step that is alluded to, suggest go to www.whyagain.org and go to our Youtube channel and watch Bill Costantino's power point presentation of the forgiveness work.

March 3

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You can manage your goals and there by indirectly manage your mind.  You can never change another person.  Develop the practice of going inside and getting centered and then be able to be loving and compassionate in the presence of someone who is angry or upset.  Mini-reminder: when you feel something coming up, stop and say "this is about me."  Status check - by using the tools one can see that they are actually handling situations differently than they would have.

When we hit critical mass - in an instant there will be a transformation and we won't know we are in the same world.

Paul expresses his thanks for this work.  He was using the cancel the goal process with another person and saw an immediate change in their countenance.

What does "Holding the space" mean?

Playing out Power People dynamics.  Raised in an environment where there was a "daily dose of disapproval" and that person will either disapprove of another or draw in someone to disapprove of them.

Explain how Y'Shua (aka Jesus) taught the real meaning of heart, unconscious and forgiveness from Aramaic.  Don't believe it, just try it, it works.

Most difficult part in the beginning of doing this work is for someone to get that it is about our own file folders we hold within that get triggered.  This is a "home game." 

March 4

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Living in DENIAL - saying it is always someone else's fault instead of going inside and taking responsability - means our automatical decision system will prompt us to do our Power Person's behavior. (1) No Stress - we will behave like we did to get along with our PP (2) Stress increases - we will do what we did to resist or survive with our PP (3) Ultra Stressed - we will do what our PP did to us that we hated the most.  We see that behavior they did as the way to win in the situation.

As a child when a parent is in distress and the child attempts to fix it for the parent and cannot...they come to a conclusion (or it is in genetics) that (1) It is my fault, (2) I am helpless, (3) I am a failure, (4) therefore life is hopeless. Then later in relationship when "You Made Me ....." is said, these 4 files fire and the relationship is over.

Erica asks, "I use a lot of my painful experiences to fuel my creative process. I had the thought that if I dismantle all this rage and anger and pain, I will have nothing to write about. What are your thoughts?"

March 5

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March 6

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March 7

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Dr Tim and Michele fill in for michael & jeanie.  Julie Haverstick called in and requested support and interacted with Michele.

March 8

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The illusion of knowledge is a threat to the Truth. Scriptures say "as a man thinketh..." If you think it in error then you can't see the Truth. Blockage of Truth.  Forgiveness is a tool for removing the error inside of yourself.  Belief is not required ... use the tools, they work ... you will have a personal experience, personally experienced, instead of a belief system.

Our brain records a lot of information however it does not record our perception or reality - it constucts it based on bits and pieces of our past memories, events, emotions, etc stimulated by what was received by the eye (see https://www.cia.gov/library/center-for-the-study-of-intelligence/csi-publications/books-and-monographs/psychology-of-intelligence-analysis/art5.html). So our perception may or may not be accurate about the current event but it is constructed out of past experiences.  We do not see what is truly 'out there' but massaged into our past. Often the thoughts are competing realities (i.e. I am a good parent.  I failed my daughter.) which creates confusion and increases stress. We want our personal constructs to be the highest and best to guide us through our life. If our perception (construct) is less than love then we must forgive the error...remove the corrupt data so we 'see' more accurately.

March 9

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Recovery Wednesday!  Frustrated goals create stress, ultimately high stress level and one turns to addictive behavior to anesthesize themself from the pain, and also blocks the truth of their own behavior by denial.

Conversation about some people not wanting to go to a group (i.e. support group or AA or NA, etc) - find a group you are comfortable with and then continue looking and find more than one group. If the composition of the group changes the entire group personality can change and then one can find themselves experiencing uncomfort again.  Have a back-up support.

Break the cycle of guilt.  Guilt will never keep one sober.  Let go of guilt, fault or blame.  Forgiveness (not pardoning) is a no fault process...however one must take responsibility for their decisions and choices and the results that follow.

Suggestion of one show of "where do I start toward recovery?"

March 10

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How can you do 3 or 5 wake-up sheets a day? Some times it can take a long time to get through a wake-up sheet and sometimes one can move through in 5 minutes.  It is all about identifying the goal and cancelling it.  Often, immediate insight and sometimes a deeper delve into the issue but if it is taking too long ask is "trying to figure it out" or perfection the block to completion?  There is a link on our site for those who are in denial that they have any issues to do wake-up sheets on.  Catch your mind at its game of judgment, projection and blame.  

When is it OK to "walk away"?  It is always OK to walk away however there are always consequences.  If I choose to walk away, I need to be aware that I still have work to do.  Am I pushing it down and am I in denial or am I moving into a space to help myself?  Am I lovingly making the choice to live differently? Or is my CBM making a decision from the past? Leaving issue is linked to objectifying the other person...we are such a throw away society...abandonment issues result. 

Entertain the thought that I could heal the leaving issue to the point and depth that I could actually apply forgiveness to the ultimate leaving issue - death.

And consider, some relationships are entered into on the inappropriate basis or with a person who is not willing to change and grow and we are attempting to change them instead of working on what it brings up for us.  Perception always tells more about the perceiver than the object being perceived. 

Suggest: tune into the upsets and irritations and get better and better at calling a time out for myself and applying the tools, whether it is cancelling, tapping or breathing.  Then after I am centered, make the choice do I walk away or stay?  

March 11

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(We are holding off on continuing yesterday's conversation until Monday when Dr Tim can be with us since he was part of that discussion.)  

Perception - judging by appearance - constructing a belief made out of our past.  Our perception is supposed to be our guide (the light) to take us through life. If our "light" is hostility and fear instead of Love then our "darkness" will be deep.  First Law is to keep Rakhma active (your perception plugged into Love) when you think of God or neighbor (anyone you think of) in order to maintain self.

What is the difference in man's "rules" and the "Laws" from the Eternal Forces? Laws are not rules of a superior but are laws from the universe created by God that cannot be broken.  Once we know how they operate we can live in harmony with them (move within them easily).  If we do not understand them then we come into collision and we get broken not the Law.

michael reads from I Samuel 8:1-22 what the Creator said would happen when the people turn from serving God in order to serve an early king...and yet the people said give us a king.

Question came out of the chatroom about "The Law of Acceptance"? Google search says the Law of Acceptance and Divine Order is that we accept everyone and everything as they are knowing it is perfect and meant to be as it is and that it is all OK in life.  This is NOT a law of the eternal forces. This is a belief set up by man, most likely in order to "accept" a behavior that is off target from the rel Law.  It is not about "relaxing into and passively accepting with peace and serenity" every behavior.  When people choose to go into gross violation in order to validate their behavior, if it brings up something in me that is less than love then it is perfect for showing me my work but that does not mean I have to accept it.  The Law requires I stay connected to love but I can hold another accountable and even stop a behavior that is off target.  Ex. if someone wants to step off a cliff to their death then that is their choice but if they have a child by the hand and want t otake them with them then I can stop that and not accept it.  Everything is not perfect as it is.

Other discussions around the Laws of holding land, not own more than one can occupy & possess.  Laws of rotating crops and letting the land lay fallow. Laws of money.

March 12

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March 13

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March 14

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Continuation of last Thursday's conversation about when is it OK to walk away?  If you don't know where you are going in life and in relationships then that is where you will land. We must have a vision. What if the so called relationship began on the "not right" basis, i.e. lust and no Pagra? What if I am fully realized and connected to Love and know a particular relationship is not healthy for me?

Everyone has the right to say I have had enough and don't want to play here and leave the relationship... taking the leaving off the table (even to the point of not dying).  There are consequences for leaving any relationship.  If I choose to leave and doing it from a place of calm knowing it is not "right" for me then I still have work to do. If I leave and do not continue my work then I create a prison for myself.  Some people have the "problem" of leaving and others have the opposite problem of "staying" long beyond an unhealthy point.  Either way I need to heal my part of the issue in order to create a future healthy pattern in relationship.  I may even have a better interaction with the other person and see them and the relationship differently.

One can look at a relationship (as with ANY issue) from two perspectives 1) out of fear or hostility from the past or 2) connected, as an observer, and recognize the situation more closely to what is accurate.

Regarding two people in a relationship, it is not the relationship that is the problem but it is the two people involved in the relationship and their individual internal dynamics that are disconnected. Look at "I am unhealthy in this relationship" and recognize each person co-created the dynamics that needs healing. There is no diseased relationship, it is perfectly reflecting what we need to heal.

ACIM: Be aware of the distorting power of the way you want it to be.

Coming into the season of the resurrection ... YShua held the space in relationship with what the world would call torture and he stays connected and says "Behold, I make all things new."

March 15

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Open with Dr. Tim's perspective of yesterdays conversation.  Before learning these tools, personal bias included.  If you leave because you think it is "their" fault then you imprison yourself and regardless of the "reason" for leaving there are always consequences.  Dr. Tim says his perspective is in line with this work just perhaps not as extreme but is based on his life experiences and 40+ years of theropeutic practice.  Go to Dr. Tim's site (http://www.ch4cs.com/media.asp) to "Saying goodbye to good people without saying goodbye to good memories" go to http://www.ch4cs.com/upload/saying_goodbye_to_good_people_-_handout.pdf for the pdf handout.

Real healing (physical, mental & emotional) is not Dr. Feelgood - we must go back through and process everything stored within your structure from the generations.  We do promise that if you use the tools you will off-load these things and heal.  It takes courage and willingness.  On the otherside is joy and peace and bliss.

Dianne calls in about a challenge of doing meal planning (desire to stay raw after the intensive).  Did a worksheet on feeling perplexed, triggered by self in not meeting goals of planning meals, punishment?? Jeanie offered punish self by eating poorly.  michael said it sounds akin to procrastination which means too many goals.  MindShifter: "It is safe and healing and easy for me to create an awesome supportive food plan that I easily follow."   She shared getting to the end of her worksheet and getting the awareness of being 12 years old and her "friends" leaving her and calling her fat and she began dieting at 12 and started planning her meals.  Being objectified and feeling the need to have to "shape up" the external for another's reality of what was acceptable.  The sensitivity of a child is impacted and the realities formed stay on and reflect throughout life until they are forgiven.

March 16

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Recovery Wednesday!  The second Be-Attitudes (from Aramaic) says "God implanted in your mind neural structures which will guide you when they are active. If they are active, you who follow these instructions will come into conscious possession of and be able to use this latent guidance system, designed to make available thoughts and actions that will increase your happiness and well-being:You abili (who love Truth and profess your errors and the errors of your society), you shall benitbeyoon (be freed of mental stress)."  Every alcoholic or drug addict (even if the drug default is rage, sugar, caffeine, junk food) turn to their drug because without it they must face the fear and pain that lays underneath. Addiction is compulsive use of any person, place, thing or event to keep from dealing with what is going on inside or from following ones higher guidance.  When we look into the error of our thought and remove it then recovery from the resulting behavior is possible.

 

Quote by Samuel Huntington: “The West won the world not by the superiority of its ideas or values or religion […] but rather by its superiority in applying organized violence. Westerners often forget this fact; non-Westerners never do.”  We need to recover from this violence. Recover from the viciousness and insanity - seen prominently during this time of voting.

 

Gail calls in with request for support.  Feelings from the thought of her home being violated while she was gone, resonated past experiences of being personally violated. 

 

Dr. Tim shared a piece from Sylvia Boorstein who says when you find yourself suffering, put your hand on your heart and say to yourself, “Sweetheart, you’re in pain. Relax. Take a breath. Lets pay attention to what is happening, and then we’ll figure out what to do.”

March 17

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Happy St. Patrick's Day. St. Patrick, a patron saint of Ireland, a religous holiday commemorating Christianity brought to Ireland.  Interesting, Lent (also a religous time) is celebrated for 6 weeks from Ash Wednesday until Easter Sunday but the Lenten restrictions on fasting and drinking alcohol is lifted for the celebration day of St. Patrick - thus it propogates and encourages the extreme drinking that happens on this day. Especially the Irish whiskey, beer and cider...drowning the Shamrock.  

Perception is the light (the guide) for our earthly life.  The perceptual mind can make up anything to justify one's behavior or thoughts.  With the tools the abhorrent perception can be kept on track and one can have the most accurate representation of actuality.  First order is to keep Rakhma active then do forgiveness (not pardoning).  The insanity has been going on for generations and it can't be cleaned up overnight.  In the story of the Jews wandering in the desert for 40 years, the old generation had to die to enter the Promised Land.  Generation is from genare meaning cause - so it really meant all the old causes have to die (not the physical bodies) in order to enter into the promised land of conscious creation.  Most people wander through life for 40+ years in deep and painful experiences until they awaken to there being something more.

Captain and Stacy call in to request support in what is perceived as a conflict within their relationship around disrespect, infidelity, lack of trust and put-down.  michael walks them through seeing it is really self-put down perceived as another putting one down.  Forgive what is blocking the filter of seeing each other as love.  The goal (wanting a different response: one of compassion) is the "way I want it to be" and drives perception.  Cancel the goal and be freed of that perception and be in a connected space of Love regardless of the result.  Then from that connected space, a responsible communication can be had around preferred behaviors and commitment toward each other.  That which I fear most is upon me.  Most generous triggers and ones projection of their own pain into the situation.  Be gentle with self and your words and behaviors on the side of compassion, gentleness and love otherwise you will slide right back into old habits of "leaving and lashing out."  If we err, lets err to the side of love instead of hostility or fear.  In her past she has been abused and has fear and thus she can't hold the space in the face of your hostility and blame.

March 18

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Opened by playing Madness by Allanis Moressette - "I should thank you ... for this bird's eye view, for your most generous triggers"  

Captain called back in from yesterday, he said he got an "ah-ha" moment about yesterday and his need for self-love. Great resistence in hearing that self-love means tapping into self (the newborn essence - who one truly is) and extending that either to self or another.  Self-love is NOT "to hell with everyone else and what they need, I'll just take care of what I want"  that is narcissism and not helpful in what you say you want for your life and your relationships.

If you continue to talk out of your pain, blaming them instead of taking responsibility for the pain as being yours, speaking in anger will make it more difficult for people to stay in your space and support you during your process. Keep in mind that leaving is deeply encoded in our genetics and that will not serve you in your process.  Go back to Thursday March 10th and Monday March 14th shows - we covered this topic in depth. Take leaving off the table - no one can heal alone.

Stacey called in to add some of her perspective about their situation.  She has a matching bag called fear to his bag of anger.  Separating for her is to feel safe. Perfect relationships are those formed out of matching bags of garbage. What we do with them either leads us toward healing or it leads us into further dis-ease state. 

Powerful to have a couple be willing to bring their issue to public radio. We all benefit. Carl Jung says "those who look without dream...those who look within awaken." It is time to awaken from the dream and heal.

March 19

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March 20

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March 21

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Gravitational fields defined. The Captain called in, and provided updates on his healing process.

March 22

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The Captain called in. Presented dilemma and requested clarification within his relationship dynamic. Reflected on abandonment issues. Michael explained resonance with others (we are attracted too), who have a “matching bag of garbage”. Outlined perspective and practical application of how one takes responsibility when triggered: Developing the skill to allow that to surface, to take a breath, and just be with your internal process, and allow the disintegrative energy to move through and heal. Defined concepts or Personal Code, Pagra

March 23

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Recovery Wednesday!

Caller Weslieann, called in with a request for support during the process of grief, as a close relationship ends. Michael explains the process of using language, to help establish and integrate where the responsibility for healing, belongs. Things outside of me, are not the cause, but rather the effect, the effect of the content of my mind, being projected on to images outside of myself.

March 24

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Rose called in with upset around her work relationship and the thoughts and feelings she is aware of in relation to her direct supervisor. Tim outlined the process for using the tools, to illicit her hidden content, reducing the denial and dissociation blocking the truth, of what’s hidden. Review of Rakhma and Koohba, and how the filters impact our perceptions and intentions. Explored Rose’s power person dynamic.

March 25

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March 26

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March 27

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March 28

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Tendency is for us to behave towards another based on the way the Power Person behaved towards us. It is a dynamic that must be changed to create something different in our lives and our relationships. Recognize your language: words direct the perception.  Emotion is energy in motion but "dis-motion" means disease energy in motion.

Conversation about "abandoning a relationship" and taking responsibility for the dis-motion moving within.  Second caller about abandoning self and the thought of losing everything in life and the intense dis-motion.  michael gave him a mindshifter: "It is safe & healing for me to feel all the terror that is in my body." 

March 29

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Question on doing a wake-up sheet as if one was someone else. For example, me doing a sheet as if I were my mother and doing the rest of the sheet based on what they would likely feel and think in the situation.  Breathe and tap into their space and listen to their voice and allow the wake-up sheet to unfold as if them.  Powerful process.

Question on a situation between a parent and child, where hostility is involved.  Look at victimhood.  The child's rage is covering tremendous pain probably around the parents' separation.

Suggest using the "Inside Out" dolls with the child. Or an imaginary "trip" to calm the dis-motions that are active in the moment.

Rex in Lansing, MI - Phone 517-449-1177 - MindShifter Meeting has shifted back to his house starting tonight, Tuesday, March 29th - call for information and details

Caller from the intensive in February asked for direction on which DVDs to watch in what order.  Why Again, Healing Through Relationships, CoDependence to InterDependence, Circle of Life, Purpose Personal Power & Commitment, Laws of Living, Getting the Stress and MindShifters and then rotate randomly through the others.  Perhaps take the third evaluation for clearer direction.

March 30

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Recovery Wednesday! David calls in for support around terror that came up for him when he visited a friend in a psych ward.  It brought up memories of when he too was in a psych ward.  Dealing with the terror differently now.  He used to turn to alcohol now he breathes and does wake-up sheets.  Discussion of being open with his dis-motions even to his daughter instead of masking it as if everything is fine.

March 31

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Understanding.  People say they "know" about forgiveness but the understanding escapes them to be able to use the tool in their own life.  You must have the "eyes to see and the ears to hear" - perception is based on the content of the mind (carbon based memory).

Rex gave the example of the movie "Risen" and when the centurian was sitting in awe and Y'Shua said you saw me crucified and dead and here you sit talking with me now and you still doubt, how difficult will it be for one to believe who never witnessed either the death or the life after.  And then when the leeper was healed by his faith and those with lesser faith doubted.

Mary calls in - she just lost her Mom and has been through a lot of things lately.  She realized she linked "loss" with punishment.  Huge learning experience and great appreciation for all the support during this time.