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Canceling goals

Susan on Tuesday, September 25 2012, 07:29 PM
I am having difficulty canceling goals. Not only on the worksheet, but in my daily life. I stand there looking at the thing goal I am currently involved in, like say, hanging curtains, and someone needs my assistance doing something else. I am really attached to hanging curtains and do not want to cancel that goal and help them with theirs. I also notice that at times that canceling my goal in #5 does not work either. Are worksheet goals and daily doing stuff goals the same thing?

Does anyone have any insights to pass my way?
Sending Love!
  • Replied by Jeanie on Thursday, September 27 2012, 02:35 PM · Hide · #1
    My first thought is that the goal isn't matching the trigger for your reality. Is the reality being generated by the curtains, or the person asking for help?

    I've done a few worksheets where I ended up either changing the trigger, or created an additional worksheet.

    I recently thought a presentation I was going to do was triggering fear. About half way through, I realized it wasn't the presentation, but the people I was presenting to. I changed the trigger and the worksheet flowed smoothly. It made sense...and hydra'd from there. :)
    • Jeanie - more than a month ago
      If the daily tasks are triggering fear/hostility, I think it's as good a place as any for a worksheet.
  • Replied by Susan on Friday, September 28 2012, 02:08 AM · Hide · #2
    Thank you for the thoughtful insight!

    You know, I didn't actually do a worksheet on that specific issue with the curtains. Didn't even think about it because it blew up into a huger worksheet that I did do and I didn't catch any hydras. I have been working diligently on goal framing/setting/canceling. I watched Getting The Stress... two or three times the other day and so I guess I stirred the cauldron good!

    Goals are a big issue for me. I realized in the last couple of days that I haven't really set any myself in my life. It is a big issue for me. I just got some insight today while talking to a friend that it brings up the thought that others do not think what I do/say/feel is important...ergo, I do not think what I do/feel/say is important. I think it may stem from being the youngest in the family.

    I think I'll go do a worksheet on on the curtains! Thanks Andy!
    Sending Love!
  • Replied by Jeanie on Friday, November 30 2012, 06:45 PM · Hide · #3
    I had a similiar problem with canceling goals. So before I go to bed in the eve I cancel all goals in my conscious and subconscious. I have just begun this process, I'll let you know how it goes.
    Replied by Susan on Friday, November 30 2012, 10:56 PM · Hide · #4
    Thanks Charlie!

    I think I could use some mantra or something. When I say "I cancel all conscious and unconscious goals" before I do my evening breathing before sleep, it doesn't really mean anything...I guess what I mean is that I don't get any relief from it. I've tried sentences like, "the only thing I need to do now is get a good night's rest"...but that's a goal...what if I can't get a good night's rest? I've tried to frame goals and then set them the next day, but the goals I've framed just seem like goals to me.

    Hmmm...what might my mantra sound like..."I release all of my conscious and unconscious goals to Rukha and The Universe to process for me while I sleep"? Yeeeesss...I like that! It helps me visualize them being canceled. Thanks for bringing it back to my attention! I will try it tonight and report back on how it goes.

    I am looking forward to hearing the insights that come your way!
    Sending Love!
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