When you do your work

When you do your work and “they” don’t, be prepared for one of the following responses…

Let’s say one person is being angry and another is being fearful. Each needs the other to do the behavior they do to show each of them their own issues.  Like playing tug-of-war, you drop your end of the rope and the game changes for them whether they want it to or not. So what happens when one person (in a relationship, friendship, work situation, whatever) does their work, the “other” does not? Be prepared, they will respond in one of 4 ways:

1) they see the difference in you, they like it and they want it too

2) they will support you in continuing to do the work responsible for the change but they do not want it themselves

3) they will crank up the heat to get you back the way you were – controllable. They need the bounce back from you to show them their issues, this is unconsciously done in most cases.

4) there is no resonance and they will leave, to find another that will play tug-of-war with.