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|October 3||Apologies for the technical difficulties at the beginning. michael gave the example of something that he draws during a workshop…some people say it is kilroy, or a train tunnel, two door igloo, but it is actually just “lines on the board” – every meaning given to it are from each person’s own mind/content. We can focus on the terrible things in the world and give it a meaning or we can simply observe and stay in a peaceful state regardless of what is going on.
Miracle Monday! ACIM: Manual for Teachers – 11 How Is Peace Possible in This World? 1.1 This is a question everyone must ask. 2 Certainly peace seems to be impossible here. 3 Yet the Word of God promises other things that seem impossible, as well as this. 4 His Word has promised peace. 5 It has also promised that there is no death, that resurrection must occur, and that rebirth is man’s inheritance. 6 The world you see cannot be the world God loves, and yet His Word assures us that He loves the world. 7 God’s Word has promised that peace is possible here, and what He promises can hardly be impossible. 8 But it is true that the world must be looked at differently, if His promises are to be accepted. 9 What the world is, is but a fact. 10 You cannot choose what this should be. 11 But you can choose how you would see it. 12 Indeed, you must choose this.
4.1 Peace is impossible to those who look on war. 2 Peace is inevitable to those who offer peace. 3 How easily, then, is your judgment of the world escaped! 4 It is not the world that makes peace seem impossible. 5 It is the world you see that is impossible. 6 Yet has God’s Judgment on this distorted world redeemed it and made it fit to welcome peace. 7 And peace descends on it in joyous answer. 8 Peace now belongs here, because a Thought of God has entered. 9 What else but a Thought of God turns hell to Heaven merely by being what it is? 10 The earth bows down before its gracious Presence, and it leans down in answer, to raise it up again. 11 Now is the question different. 12 It is no longer, “Can peace be possible in this world?” but instead, “Is it not impossible that peace be absent here?”
|October 4||Dr. Tim and Michele filled in for michael and jeanie while they tended to their daughter and granddaughter. Thank you.
Michele and Susan both shared their learning opportunities with this work.
|October 5||Recovery Wednesday! A story told in The Gentle Art of Blessing by Pierre Pradervand, the story actually comes from the book Return from Tomorrow, written by Dr. George Ritchie (see page 114 of his book). Ritchie was a doctor with the American troops in WWII who took part in the liberation of the concentration camps of Nazi Germany. He became acquainted with a Polish prisoner who was nicknamed Wild Bill Cody. michael read the story: https://whyagain.org/choice-by-love/
This is a story of true recovery – the recovery of the truth of his BEING!
Dr. Tim shared from yesterday’s show and from his support group last night.
Caller Gail, looking forward to Saturday’s workshop in Vandalia, IL. She has us on the community calendar to be advertised with a local radio station. Recovery center is interested in having a workshop there too. She has at least 10 confirmations of people coming and they are bringing food, etc. Then she referred to the story at the opening of the show and how along with the 12-step program that teaches that resentment is the number one killer and leading to squandering of time and life and drives to the drinking. She reads the prayers around anger and resentment and retaliation. Looking at the sickness. Gail read the prayers around sex (which is a huge addiction). It is a resonate energy not a body that matters in a relationship. Objectifying self or others and getting rid of people in our lives. BEINGS are eternal.
michael talked about the movie MissRepresentation – objectifying women
Also, movie Thanks for Sharing – each turns first to hostility and when that is not enough to anesthesize themself from the pain that is being aroused in them, then they turn to their drug of choice (alcohol, sex, drugs, etc). Must first obstain from the hostility. Gail said she celebrated on Sept 25th her 17 year sobriety from drugs and alcohol but notices she now needs to continue to obstain from sugar and notices her feelings are more intense. Hostility comes up fast. Pepsi was her present addiction. (She noted that they serve soft drinks, coffee, donuts, etc. at AA meetings – just a different drug, one more acceptable?)
Comment in the chatroom: I like the comment about your grandaughter, of how she always dreamed of coming to this place. She embodied in the moment (to me) how to live
Caller Brenda, update on the worksheet conference call (1 hr before radio show) call in 515-739-1020 and access code is 959327# (which is same number for LOL work 7-days a week).
|October 7||Caller CJ, grand process.|
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|October 10||Miracle Monday!|
|October 11||michael quotes from Robert Heinlein “Stranger in a Strange Land”
We need to be aware of what is around us, recognize the truth, and realize that our goals is what is driving the process of the construction of our reality.
Janis Joplin quote “Its not what isn’t, it’s what you wish was, that makes unhappiness.” It is the goal you hold that accesses the unhappiness.
Forgive / remove everything opposite of Love (hostility or fear or sadness) can move us toward health and wellness. Generational.
Caller Julie in Nevada, shared her process in healing. She had a breath session a few weeks ago and realized she was carrying generational physical issues. Father’s heart problems, Mother’s fear and anxiety. Shared a great generational insight. Grandmother died of syphillis in a mental hospital (was a Madam in a brothel). Saw herself being afraid of becoming so mentally ill she would end up in a mental hospital and she has always been looking for love in all the wrong places. michael explained the energetic inclinations and that we have the ability to change that – it is possible for a new creation. Also, the assault was probably generational too. And she shared about her aunt who has dementia and is in hospice and her cousin being difficult. Catching her own reactions sooner than before. At first Julie was going to get an attorney against her cousin (saw her own anger here). Doing worksheets and decided to write her aunt a letter of apology about misunderstanding. More worksheets, felt her shoulders drop (weight lifted) and her heart light up, was able to let it drop and be OK with whatever happens. michael offered syphillis has a dementia aspect, energy moves (warmth in heart) and weight lifts from generations. michael offered her to watch “The Ghost in Your Genes” video from our website. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTShfjq4yOk
We have a guidance system that knows everything in the universe if we will listen. Proactively removing frequencies and inclinations towards negativity. michael said when we do our work it is “praying for the dearly departed” to clear the energies from them too…past and future generations.
Question from chatroom about “perceiving” the presidential candidates in hostility or fear. Jeanie offered we have eyes and ears that can accurately capture the off target behaviors of both (and any) persons. And they need to be held accountable. However, if when watching or listening to the “garbage” (my reality) we experience hostility or fear …. that is ours. Healing the hostility or fear and then we can watch and listen and be neutral emotionally and express that it is off target and perhaps it will mean we do some action toward accountability and perhaps we can let it go and hold the space. michael told of Ace D Kelley and using Laws of Living in the prisons in Georgia. Accountability is not the same as punishment.
Christian the Lion story on our website https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOLqVshIM4w – the love between the lion and the two guys is so great the female lioness falls right into the energy presented. Conscious Active Present Love.
|October 12||Recovery Wednesday! How do we recover our being? When we let go of our being there is pain, to hide the pain one often turns to anger then drugs addictively to cover their pain. Go into a stupor in order to not feel. A song to introduce this life is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8SsRwKHb94 A New Way To Fly by Garth Brooks. The need to escape. michael read the words of the song (sometimes challenging to understand when sung). They want a new way to fly to get away from their losses and pain. Their answer is in the bottle and the numbness they feel. A high price to pay but worth it if they can find a new way to fly …. drinking is not the answer.
Forgive is a tool for removing content from my mind, body and emotions…energetic, painful, intense experiences often genetically acquired. Remove the root of the pain.
Jeanie read an obituary of a young man who died from an overdose of heroin. Powerful plea from the family for people to seek help. A sad commentary on a young man’s life. One change, heroin did not take his life, he gave it over to heroin. It is a choice made personally by each person.
Caller Gail, a lot of feedback on the workshop last Saturday. It was the best Why workshop she had ever been in. Gail had sponsored a few of the people that were there and was suprised at some of the calls and requests to continue with the work. Her first support group will be from 6:30 – 9:00PM tomorrow night. She shared that all alcoholics she knows and relates to are very sensative people. michael offered that when one gets safe enough to face their issues instead of hiding behind an addiction (anesthesizing) the BEING can come forth again … it has always been there, untouched by the experiences. Gail offered when she “enjoyed drinking, she was not controlling it but then there were consequences (waking up with a stranger)” but if she “controlled the drinking then she wasn’t enjoying it.” Thanks for the song lyrics.
Caller David from Chicago. Been in recovery for a number of years before meeting Dr. Hayes and michael. Shared some things that he puts into practice. Things happen, want to get to the place of being loved, and feel comfortable and turns to alcohol. Defective characteristics, denying and suppressing, projecting and externalizing. Entitled and felt the world wasn’t fair to him. Realized he was not changing inside until he met this work. In the 12-step program there is a step where the person determines they are an alcoholic. Wake up and says I can’t believe I did that, where’s my car, where’s my money and who are you? Then at step 3, David asks the person he is sharing with “have you held a newborn?” and can you relate to the non-being side or the newborn side? Everyone wants to be love and gentleness and be at peace without drinking…he is able to introduce them to the forgiveness work and can not mention who or what the higher power is (it is our Source, Love)…and then asks are you willing to turn your will and life (the hostility and fear side) over to love and forgiveness…they all want that.
michael offered he was processing someone recently and what they wanted (their goal) was to be able to trust the person they ‘gave their heart to’ that they would nurture and respect and protect them. So michael asked them, when your spouse gave you their heart did you nurture, respect and protect them? The turn around.
“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.” quoted Meša Selimović
Caller Danielle, in recovery from bulimia and alcoholism. Through her dishonesty and behaviors she has now lost her husband (he has filed for divorce). Near end of showtime, requests she call in tomorrow so we can support her.
|October 13||Challenging to get people to recognize they are creators of what’s happening in their world … instead of blaming others for their ‘why is this happening to me again’ experience. michael explained how our mind is an evidential device and shows us evidence to prove our belief as true. If we hold to disintegrative energies it becomes our dis-eases in our physical bodies.
Luke 6:45 “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.” The heart is the unconscious.
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” Carl Jung
Dr. Tim shared about his Tuesday night Support Group with The Way of Mastery (1st century Aramaic forgiveness from another source). This week has been all over the map but the theme is people seeing in others what they themselves have been doing. Example, one client in a relationship that was an abusive relationship and got out of it, realized the feeling of not wanting to be alone is what kept him in the relationship and yet he kept telling his former wife that she needed to learn to be independent and do things on her own. Giving advice to someone close to us, but we are actually trying to give it to ourself. My job to get myself to do the practice – teach best what we most need to learn.
Last minute yesterday in chatroom, someone has a friend who says they enjoy their drinking and were not interested in the tools to change their behavior. She planted the seed, model that it is possible to make a change.
Caller Danielle, continue from yesterday. Particularly lying to ‘protect’ the behaviors of alcohol and bulimia and it has deteriorated my marriage to the point my husband has filed for divorce. She finds it difficult to not express how she loves him. michael offered the ‘set up for failure’ if we hold to the belief of loving another person instead of BEING THE PRESENCE OF LOVE. How can I remain as LOVE and cancel the goal for him to stay? michael explained why we would cancel the goal, it is the driver for the perceptual world and how it creates the trauma until what is behind it can be removed. It is not the goal that is the problem, it is what is inside that is linked that keeps us from creating it. michael told a story of a couple who were ready to divorce and agreed to watch the DVD Healing Through Relationships and agreed to put forth another commitment / proposal to work on it again. Reference the ‘trust level’ between spouses and how genetically the mistrust is planted as the norm. Accountability and agreement between each other to hold each to the new agreement. If you put this forward then even if he says no then you still win by doing this. Remember when the ‘dark moments’ come forward that the familiar (power person) behavior will be to separate and leave. Commit to stay and continue your work.
Caller Donna, appreciation for this work and she understands it is always an inside job. She mentioned the song from yesterday “A New Way to Fly”… michael offered the work is to give up the psuedo solution of the non-being mind and reclaim our human life.
Address Danielle’s behavior of bulimia, Jeanie offered over-eating and gaining weight is a means of adding a protective layer around us. Then we have a negative self-image and purge. Continue with the work and learn the Love you are is perfect and the behavior (which is effect) will drop away. Just as you found an AA group, look for an eating disorder group (perhaps an extension of Over Eaters Anonymous)
|October 14||With all the broadcasts of the Presidential issues it seems sexual abuse is coming forward to the light more than ever before. michael shared an experience at an intensive where a man came forward and admitted he had in his younger years abused women and had carried the guilt and shame around that, and there were 4 or 5 women there who had been abused and the healing that happened between them all was amazing but it had to come forward first.
Dr. Tim said he has also seen in his clients the issues around women’s issues, the assumption of superiority of men, harrassment in workplace, ownership of women and their bodies, etc. Needs to be brought to the light and healed. And there are aspects that are uncomfortable when these issues come forward.
If we hold an issue inside that we refuse to bring forward consciously and purposely to embrace it in love for healing, the energy of the ussue will move until it finds expression unconsciously. Jeanie offered that as one who has experienced sexual abuse, the belief that life is not safe is locked in with the memory and thus feeling safe to bring the memory forward is crucial part of the process.
Jeanie shared the lyrics to “Blowing in the Wind” by Bob Dylan. Particularly the third verse: “Yes, How many times must a man look up Before he can see the sky? Yes, and how many ears must one man have Before he can hear people cry? Yes, and how many deaths will it take till he knows That too many people have died? The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind The answer is blowing in the wind.”
Caller Julie from Pahrump, had been speaking with a man about Trump saying (about his own daughter) “being a piece of ass..” She asked him, how would you feel if he said that about your daughter? They realized they would be more upset if it had happened to them personally. Remember women do “locker room talk” too. michael offered though that it is denial to call it “just locker room talk” … he said it more than once and has proven by action he follows through with his talk. Accountability is required.
Julie spoke about how she had adopted her families’ illnesses and is working through it. She does not have children so how does the work she has done (and is doing) move forward to other generations? michael spoke of energy creating waves that impact everyone everywhere not just in the bloodline. Julie offered that counselling has helped but this work has been monumental in moving her forward more quickly and easily.
Dr Tim said his Support Group met last night and watched the first hour of the newest 4-hour DVD of Why Again (videoed in Woodstock in 2014).
Caller Gail reported on their first Vandalia Support Group which met last night, 4 people plus her, they listened to the first few chapters of the Why book on MP3 then did wake-up sheets. Setting up another workshop and Support Group in Effingham, IL. She announced she was going to MI and would be speaking on Humility from the 7th step in AA 12-steps program but wants the Aramaic definition of humility (looking for the highest and best in another). We look out and grab the energy we focus on and plant it in our own mind (sowing and reaping). Better to reinforce the best than the worst.
Caller Michele from MI. Mid-summer the support group disbanded. During the women’s intensive Michele was a participant not a facilitator. Little confusion of where the boundaries are with friends, peers, clients. Dr. Tim offered to do a private conversation with Michele regarding the legal issues but as far as on the radio show, there definitely needs to be boundaries. Depending on the size of the town, many times the “Shaman” had to wear other hats too in regards to the same people but they held boundaries.
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|October 17||Miracle Monday! The mind creates the world that it sees out of its past perceptions. We think we look out through our eyes and see what is actually there. The CIA has a book on perception and the bottomline conclusion is that we do not record reality but our mind generates it. The world of pictures that we “see” is colored with our past thoughts.
Workbook Lesson 8. My mind is preoccupied with past thoughts. “This idea is, of course, the reason why you see only the past. No one really sees anything. He sees only his thoughts projected outward. The mind’s preoccupation with the past is the cause of the misconception about time from which your seeing suffers. Your mind cannot grasp the present, which is the only time there is. It therefore cannot understand time, and cannot, in fact, understand anything. The one wholly true thought one can hold about the past is that it is not here. To think about it at all is therefore to think about illusions. Very few have realized what is actually entailed in picturing the past or in anticipating the future. The mind is actually blank when it does this, because it is not really thinking about anything. The purpose of the exercises for today is to begin to train your mind to recognize when it is not really thinking at all. While thoughtless ideas preoccupy your mind, the truth is blocked. Recognizing that your mind has been merely blank, rather than believing that it is filled with real ideas, is the first step to opening the way to vision. The exercises for today should be done with eyes closed. This is because you actually cannot see anything, and it is easier to recognize that no matter how vividly you may picture a thought, you are not seeing anything. With as little investment as possible, search your mind for the usual minute or so, merely noting the thoughts you find there. Name each one by the central figure or theme it contains, and pass on to the next.”
“Take the gloves off” means stop playing out of my own hostility and fear (forgiving) and open to the gentle truth of who I am.
Dr Tim offered it is a trick to catch my mind at its games. Step back and take a breath and it has another gift for me. Huge dividends every time. Refers to the book “The Gentle Art of Blessing” and the impact it has had. Dr. Tim said the pattern so far is the subtle denial of fear, guilt, shame, anger that clients want to place on “them” instead of seeing it is their unresolved garbage from the past.
Jeanie shared two emails (generically) from ladies in Europe who continue to deny and push the “blame” on “them” instead of looking at their part. Jeanie took their email and removed the “nots, don’ts, nos” and reread what they were truly asking for from their unconscious. michael suggested having them go to www.whyagain.org then go to the MP3s of radio shows where we walk someone through a wake-up sheet, and listen to the second one with Richard and how many times michael had to bring him back to his own issue. When we spray out a particular energy “they” are only too obliged to play it out with us. When we change the energy within we can exprience “them” as who they are instead of who we made them out to be. We need to weaken those energies from the past that keeps me in the experience of “Why is this happening to me … again?!”
|October 18||michael opens the show referring to Police apologize black community historic injustices “Speaking at the International Association of Chiefs of Police annual convention in San Diego, the organization’s president and Wellesley, Massachusetts Police Chief Terrence Cunningham described to his colleagues the challenges they face as officers in a cultural climate where more and more controversial officer-involved shootings often divide the police and the communities they’re tasked with serving. He also spoke about some of law enforcement’s “darker periods.” … he apologized for the “historical injustices” carried out by police against the African-American community. “There have been times when law enforcement officers, because of the laws enacted by federal, state, and local governments, have been the face of oppression for far too many of our fellow citizens,” he said in a rousing speech on Monday that prompted a standing ovation from those in the room. “In the past, the laws adopted by our society have required police officers to perform many unpalatable tasks, such as ensuring legalized discrimination or even denying the basic rights of citizenship to many of our fellow Americans.” Cunningham said he would like to move forward and mend the tattered relationships many law enforcement agencies have with their African American communities. “For our part, the first step in this process is for law enforcement and the IACP to acknowledge and apologize for the actions of the past and the role that our profession has played in society’s historical mistreatment of communities of color,” he said. “At the same time, those who denounce the police must also acknowledge that today’s officers are not to blame for the injustices of the past. If either side in this debate fails to acknowledge these fundamental truths, we will be unlikely to move past them.” There is potential change.
michael spoke of a young man he worked with this morning who kept saying he did not want to be like his father. Explaining how the single focus on one thought will see exactly that come about. Speak what you do want, instead of what you don’t want. Paul (in the scriptures) asked why he did what he did not want to do and could not do what he wanted to do…when anyone is in hostility or fear they will behave out of that instead of their being (love).
Forgiveness collapses the content of the mind and discharges the emotions of hostility or fear and we get a taste of true being. We take off the gloves and experience it directly.
“Saved by the Light” movie about Dannion Brinkley Dannion Brinkley Saved by the Light has a nearlife experience and comes back with the message that “you are a powerful, spiritual being and love makes the difference.” He has the internal struggle of his previous CBM and his new experience of Being. Powerful story of moving from one to the other.
Dr Tim speaks of recognizing there is a difference in an upset level of 200 verses level of 8 – there is a significant level of progress done but they tend to jump to the conclusion that the work is not working for them. It is.
Caller Shelly shares the space he has to manifested for the next few weeks to allow everything to come forward for healing.
Caller Julie from Oregon shared she had been contemplating and doing worksheets around all the insanity and the players in the political arena. Can see it as an act of love to show us how dark it has all gotten to bring us back to love and light. She can see it can move us to the true treasure we are and we are seeing some critical mass of more consciousness coming about. michael offered the MindShifter: It is safe and healing for me to remove all hostility and fear I have about political issues. (We must own our disturbance and work on what is inside. Easy to avoid it and blame the external.)
We are subject to the Law (not talking about the rules established by man) regardless of whether we like it or protest it. We can come into collision but we can not break the Laws of the Universe (ie Law of Gravity). We can do our work and then hold the space of love to make the contribution for the planet to shift.
Jeanie announced the next Women Healing Women 4-day retreat is scheduled to be at Fort Caswell in Oak Island, NC – save the dates! Thursday through Sunday, March 9 – 12, 2017. Accommodations, meals, workshops and materials only $600. Space is limited so reserve your spot.
Jeanie also shared emails coming from Finland and Poland and they are building brain cells (and perhaps there i a language barrier issue too) but have difficulty seeing that I am suggesting it is wat is inside them (not outside) that is creating their experiences.
|October 19||Recovery Wednesday! Announcements of intensive schedules watch the website.
Support people to live as their true being – active, present Love. Unless there is the physiological experience of Love then there is active hostility and fear. Stop pretending it is about others outside of you. If you feel it then it is yours.
“Stranger in a Strange Land” written by Robert Heinlein says “The human mind’s ability to rationalize its own shortcomings into virtues is unlimited, and I am no exception.”
Caller Gail, going home from Minnesota (should be there within a couple of hours). Journey was productive and her talk went well, incorporated the Aramaic meaning of humility. There was opportunity to fall back to sugar and caffeine but was able to ask someone to guide her through the issue when it came up. Like an alcoholic going to a bar. But she stayed clean. When we falter having an accountability partner is powerful. She now has 5 ladies that she previously sponsored and wants to lead by example. She stopped in and was with Dr. Tim’s Support Group last night. Her support group meets 6:30-9:00 tomorrow night in the Community Room.
The call for Laws of Living groups and the Wake-up sheet groups is 515-739-1020, access code is 959327# Gail said she needs to figure out how to record the calls.
Dr. Tim expressed thanks for Gail popping in. In the support group last night, two people shared that they had an image come forward when they cancelled their goal that they felt was not relavent to their wake-up sheet. After processing it they saw it was very relevant. Instead of allowing something to come forward instead of ‘thinking’ about it. Frequently taking time to remind people to just trust the process…the logical mind will attempt to explain it. Then Tim shared about a friend who works in the library at a prison and that he would like to get the Why Again rewrite into that library to give tools for the prisoners to learn the tools prior to release. Also, the discussion, this is not an intellectual process, we are not here to prove who is right or wrong but to learn the tools and become aligned with the power that keeps our heart beating and our breath moving.
Caller Donna, enjoying the conversation.
Caller Brenda, talking about the wake-up sheets and going with the flow and not out-thinking the process. She found this to be true, during the WSS call she has gotten 6 sheets done. Moved from one thing to another and then got a nice release in the 6th one. Doing the sheets filled with joy now, but it is not always fun.
Gail, added, reaching the space of neutrality. Continue to take personal inventory. Being able to reach that point with addictive substances but also with people. To be active present love.
michael said when we decide “they will not change” then that construct is a symbol and all we will see.
|October 20||Discussion of the difference in ‘decide’ and ‘choice’
Caller Sharon asks “How do you mend a broken heart when someone leaves a relationship?” No one or nothing outside of you can make you feel sad or happy, but if it is inside of you it can be resonated.
|October 21||michael shared a discussion he has had with someone about the difference in medical treatment and real healing. Do you do what is easy to do or do you dig in to do what is required?
If one starts into this work and become a master (conscious co-creator) of their lives it often takes at least 5 years. There are so many competing thoughts that will drag you back. Everyone wants to live there but few people are actually willing to do what it takes to comprehend what’s required to change. Most everyone wants it yesterday, but there is work required and you can’t “storm the gates.” One must undo the foundation of grief, anger, pain, fear, etc. that is already in place and build a new foundation of love. Must change the thought structure.
Caller Shelly, has invited energies in to be healed and it became a ‘dinner party’ and the main energy was anger. Angry at family, therapists, ex-partners, children, etc. came down to feeling betrayal. michael interrupted him to correct him that he was not “angry at them” but had anger inside. Shelly said he saw that and through his processing he had to finally look at the “man in the mirror” michael reminded him he was not angry at himself either. Shelly realized it was all lie and was actually thankful for all the teachers in his life and returned to love his inner child. Lasted about 20 hours, not easy but was great in the end.
Callers Doug & Dianne, processing and looked at their realities around “planning” Dianne wants to plan 3 months ahead and Doug wants to stay in the moment. He realizes his Dad would plan and they always failed, Mom just played and was less stressed. michael suggested doing worksheets around “planning meaning failure” Planning is only a tool, the mind that uses the tool produces the result. Dianne saw in her worksheet that her Dad made plans and always got things accomplished and then had time for play while her Mom always worked and never had fun. Totally opposite of Doug’s reality. Making a 3-month plan creates stress in his mind. michael quoted the poem “One ship sails East, And another West, By the self-same winds that blow, ‘Tis the set of the sails And not the gales, That tells the way we go.”
Jeanie offered that a plan is not a goal. Goals create stress, plans do not. Do a three month plan but your goals are only for the next waking period. michael mentioned making a commitment as well as goals. Commitments mean your word is good.
Dianne shared that in her life people would not follow through and were not trustworthy and she took on having to take care of it herself (to meet her goals). She wants to know how to set a balance between her desires and the way life deals? michael offered worksheets around “beating people over the head” and who did that to you? Figuratively speaking, herself. michael gave her a MindShifter: My experience has always been that life and people can be totally trusted. Doug said they had an awesome visit at her family farm (and cemetary) when they went to the wake of her uncle and able to see the generational process (reference to pioneers).
Thankful for what we have, living on the shoulders of those pioneers.
What is my mind generating? Human life is active love, what do I need to remove that is less than that? Doug said 80% of “stuff” is in there. michael offered what is the downside to “going for eternal life”? Perhaps one will not make it but that does not disprove the possibility.
Jeanie read the whole poem http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/tis-the-set-of-the-sail-or-one-ship-sails-east/ the last verse says: “Like the winds of the sea Are the waves of time, As we journey along through life, ‘Tis the set of the soul, That determines the goal, And not the calm or the strife.”
Dr. Tim says “go west young man” with a laugh and said he enjoyed the show. Update on last night’s support group, they watched the old version of Healing Through Relationships and it was a catalyst for the idea presented back then around the concept of bias and four things that come out of having that bias active: inhibits my reason, distorts perception, there long enough uncorrected becomes my diseases, and it will become the most powerful creative directive in my life. He shared the story michael told on the video about a father & son in an accident and the father is killed. The boy is rolled into the operating room and when the surgeon came in they said they could not do the surgery because the boy was their son. How could that be? The surgeon was the boy’s mother, but if you have a bias that surgeons are male then you can’t figure it out. Tim will share next week a powerful insight he had.
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|October 24||Miracle Monday! ACIM Lesson 184 The Name of God is my inheritance. “You live by symbols. You have made up names for everything you see. Each one becomes a separate entity, identified by its own name. By this you carve it out of unity. By this you designate its special attributes, and set it off from other things by emphasizing space surrounding it. This space you lay between all things to which you give a different name; all happenings in terms of place and time; all bodies which are greeted by a name.”
michael referenced Donald Hoffman who is a cognitive scientist and author of more than 90 scientific papers and three books, including Visual Intelligence: How We Create What We See (W.W. Norton, 2000). He received his BA from UCLA in Quantitative Psychology and his Ph.D. from MIT in Computational Psychology. He joined the faculty of University of California Irvine in 1983, where he is now a full professor in the departments of cognitive science, computer science and philosophy. Hoffman studies visual perception, visual attention and consciousness …see his full profile at
Caller Ann shared ideas from the wake-up sheet group.
Caller Danielle. Struggling with feeling like she is the symbol of someone else’s pain. michael offered recognize that while you have become the symbol of someone else’s pain, what it resonates in you by them blaming you means they have become a symbol of your pain. Go to “start here” on www.whyagain.org and download the wake-up sheet. Based on this you probably have a goal to be seen as innocent by them. Then drop into the root of the drama and pain around not being seen as innocent. Then one can stand as love and support regardless of their blaming.
|October 25||Thanks Michele for filling in for Jeanie.|
|October 26||Recovery Wednesday! Focus is a creative act. Let’s recover our BEING. With all the election discussions, we thought we would do the show around ELECTILE DISFUNCTION. People losing their essence of Love over the political garbage. The discussions on Facebook and television and people growling at others over a difference of thought (difference in choice of candidate).
All addiction is around the underlying pain whether it is alcohol, sex or hostility. Become part of a 12-step program.
Dr Tim, take a breath, ask what is the lesson here? The venom and hate coming out…such an opportunity to raise to awareness anything that has been denied from the unconscious. With all the back-biting and such, I choose Love.
The energy of creation focused on love and transform the insanity we see on the stage of politics. Dr Tim said that is our only hope for changing anything.
Ask, “Does it increase the energy of life force on the planet? Or does it decrease it? Does it open the space to increase the life force?”
Life is fraught with opportunities, and some times it would be nice if it were not so fraught.
michael and Jeanie saw the Hughes Brothers show last night, the world’s largest performing family. Five brothers, their five wives, and 36+ children, supported by 4 adopted siblings and several in-laws all working together in harmony.
Caller Gail, still off of sugar and realizes how she used it to stuff things down. Being with her family there were opportunities to witness the Electile Disfunction. The arguments around the political positions of family and experiencing her own rage coming up but kept mouth shut and asked Rukha to assist in saying only what was for the highest and best. She asked to discuss being ‘in the moment’ when things are in your face and you can’t do a wake-up sheet. michael offered she lost her sobriety to rage even though she kept it inside? Yes she said she refrained from projecting it outward but knew it was inside raging and cortisol rushing etc. michael offered she probably did well to not project it, and she remained aware it was there. Consciously being able to say what is driving this process? I had a goal for it to be different. In that moment make a mental note to do a wake-up sheet later, but immediately cancel your need for him to agree with you or see the value of women or whatever it is that is driving what is inside. michael acknowledged her ability to be as conscious as possible in the circumstances.
michael referenced the movie “Thanks for Sharing” and how in every case, when stress was too high they moved to rage first then when that did not anesthesize the pain the went to their addiction of choice (alcohol, sex, drugs). It appears to be relief but the pain is just buried temporarily to arise again. Healing comes by removing the pain, fear, hostility, etc. remove the underlying cause that is driving the behavior. The more specific one can identify the driving goal the better.
Dr Tim offered too she might be holding the goal of being good…that might have kept her from externalizing as well.
Gail acknowledged Michele (michael’s niece) and the work she did on yesterday’s show. Gail has found it to be true that by doing this work people, who had previously withdrawn, have come back into her life. Example one at the workshop a few weeks ago, Gail had not spoken to her in 3 years, she now wants to be involved in this work too.
Gail also asked michael to discuss the ‘helplessness and hopelessness’ – michael said this comes from a Power Person who is also in hopelessness/helplessness and feel so vulnerable that they go bezerk when they feel they are out of control, they beat down the individual and then the behavior is simply replicated. Expression from the child that the PP does not approve of and with rage they can shut them down. Then the other aspect is that when a child sees an adult in pain and trauma, the child reaches forward to help fix it and they can’t. They come to the conclusion that they can’t fix it when something is wrong and the helpless/hopeless can control their whole life. Governing principles from childhood. The complexity also includes ‘my fault’ and ‘I’m a failure’ and creates a life that is the impossible dream. The belief ‘there is something wrong with me.’ and gets perpetrated from generation to generation.
Gail said a lot is resonated over the Native Americans and the pipeline as well as the political thing. Helpless and hopeless. michael gave a MindShifter: “It is safe, healing and desirable for me to relinquish control.” Gail growls and says no I don’t want to do that. and then he added “And the people making decisions respect my input as I do.” Have you bought into the belief of being useless and not worth hearing? You must honor your voice and it will speak and people will listen. Gail said in the past if people did not listen, she would start yelling, sreaming, throwing things to get them to listen. michael offered it is what her PP did to her. We abhor the behavior but do it as the way to win.
|October 27||Become aware of experiencing a new attitude, but it is not really yours until you ‘act on it.’ michael had read an article about how much food is wasted in America because it is blemished. Then he caught himself sorting through grapes this morning and pulling out those that were not perfect because he also had the old attitude of discarding blemished food. It requires a change in action or behavior. Same applies when we have hostility or fear active in us, we must set a purpose to change our mind by cancelling the goal triggering the hostility or fear and then bring in a new goal and do a different behavior.
We need to share new insights and experiences with others. Living as the active presence of Love.
michael gave a heads-up on what is happening at HeartLand, summer schedule set, and potential for several intensives in Oak Island, NC and a change in location for the Women’s 4-days too. Watch the website.
Jeanie shared receiving the copyright on her bookcover “Healing Generations: One Breath at a Time” and described the concept of the cover and what it means.
Dr. Tim has worked with several who have hesitated around what is required to dismantle the old and mentally practice the new attitude. To make it a new habit. People are aware but they need to actually ‘put the pen to the paper’ use the tools to make the change. Just awareness is not enough to make the change.
michael shared Ghandi used to say “if you want potatoes you must use the hoe”
The steering wheel changes the direction of the car. The steering wheel for your mind is the goal you hold. If your behavior is going in an improper direction then you must canel the driver – the goal.
Camille in chatroom asks for discussion and elaboration on using the Mind/Goal management tool and the full quote from Y’Shua on Matthew 6:34 KJV “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” michael offered that if we don’t manage our mind it goes on automatic pilot and one unfolds a life based on the generational past. MindGoal Managment sheet introduces “Will” as a spiritual faculty, “Will” can do five things if practiced: 1. frame a goal (the what, when, why and how involved), 2. select a goal for immediate attention (assess what is going on in life and bring forward a goal), 3. set a goal (committed to achieving, more than an intention), 4. cancel a goal, 5. and maintain our goals to select at a later time.
Re: “the evil thereof” in Aramaic “evil” has two meanings: 1. not ripe or is still incomplete. 2. just like “sin” in Aramaic means off the mark and “evil” means totally off target. There are enough incomplete projects in a day so don’t set goals for more than the next waking period. You can frame a goal each evening but set it in the morning and if not completed then cancel it the next evening.
Caller Camille, so may goals, writing books, illustrating, demands of business with son. During a session with Julie Haverstick, she gave her the example, “I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it” michael said it requires a change of attitude and behavior. We must be aware of what is running us. Clarity and forgiveness will help you get on track. Cancel what does not support your purpose then divide the day, i.e. 10% time writing, 20% with business, 10% for spiritual work, etc. Keep yourself on target and less stress.
|October 28||Announced Feb 26, 2017 week of workshops in Wilmington, NC then March/April 2017 intensives in Oak Island, NC
What does healing look like? Energy coming out of the system looks (symptomatically) the same as it did going in. Healing Crisis will look like: 1) Physically – like any symptom you’ve had and low energy 2) Mentally – like any negative thought you’ve had and confusion (disinhibited) 3) Emotionally – like any negative feeling you’ve felt and depression
When symptomatic you can tell it is healing and not crisis: 1) Have you been doing more of the “right” things in my life 2) Just before symptomatic did I hit a new level of vitality 3) Elimination increase moving load out of system so it becomes more vital (decrease during illness) 4) Crave the drug you used when the diseased process happened
In order for the family system to heal all must surface. When it surfaces it is either healed or reinforced. Whatever surfaces is “real” at the time for the mind in which that energy is moving. If what is moving is hate, that person will “hate” whoever it is aimed at. If it is fear, that person (self or another) will “fear” whoever is present. Those energies, moving, are reality in that moment, though not the Truth. The thing that makes the difference is, is someone in the space, holding the space? If Love is conscious, active and Present, healing of what is moving occurs and all generations benifit. If the only energy in the space is the generational matching bag of garbage then the pattern is reinforced and all generations suffer.
We hook our internal dynamics into the image of our partner and think it is about them when it is only about us and the dynamics we have not released.
Dr Tim – The support group watched the older version of “Healing Through Relationships” so this conversation is exactly in alignment with last night. Reminded how much it is an inside job. Running a support group for years that was the highlight of my week was the drive to begin a second group each week. A meeting space and two or more people can meet and watch videos or read the book and do wake-up sheets together costs little and the payback is great. Dr Tim offered support in guiding how to maintain a group that is focused and productive for everyone. Appreciation.
michael offered free MP3 of Why Again book for anyone who goes to www.whyagain.org and clicks on “Join Our Mailing List” at top of the page and either join us or update your contact info.
Caller Shelly, life is like a carnaval. It has joyrides and it has a house of horrors. Once you go into the house of horrors, you can move through more quickly but on the other side when you come out the light is brighter. michael offered the house of horror can be financial, relationship, physical – but with the tools you can clean it out.
Caller Michele from Michigan, an idea she heard on Miracle Monday was around the Pagra. michael offered that each person has a personal code that governs their behavior. The idea of the Pagra, in Aramaic, was when two people come together in relationship they create a third entity energy. The Pagra can develop its own personal code but when the two people are conscious they can write the personal code of the Pagra and commit to yield or surrender to the PC of the Pagra whenever there is a conflict in the relationship. Michele asks about having different personal codes in business, verses family, etc. michael offered how we set our mind in files, therapeutic files tell you how to behave there, family file may hold generational blame and such language that they would never use toward a client, there is where the forgiveness process is so powerful. Weaken the energetic inclination to certain behaviors so they do not take one over.
Julie from Nevada. Today’s topic hit home. In the moment, how do you stop and remember? The rage will take over, especially in relationships. michael “all of the above” Jeanie says practice until it becomes habitual to step back and breathe instead of allowing the rage to take over and spew out. Muscle Memory for most is “the good old family feeling.”
michael shared working with someone who went with his spouse to a therapist and the therapist seemed to come down on him as though his process wasn’t working. His fear came forward, threatened by therapist and came out words to spouse that looked like he was leaving her. Her response was she needed another man in her life. He chose to go to her even when every fiber of his being did not want to even be near her. She was receptive and when they processed in a more connected space, each realized they had reacted out of fear and threat and had gone into defense and their words were not the truth of what they truly wanted. Reconciliation was sweet.
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|October 31||Gail Boggs sharing about doing her first 4-hr Why Again workshop yesterday in Effingham, IL. She had 11 in attendance, sweet group of people and it flowed well. The worksheet went well. Has two questions: someone mentioned “The Work” by Byron Katie, they felt it was a more ‘practical’ stance without spiritual. A second one was someone feeling that doing so many wake-up sheets each day was a waste of time. Gail responded with both the 12-step continual inventory and also the Aramaic and noted that she had wasted many years trying to stay ahead of it all and arrange the outside of her life without success and while the inside was still a mess. michael said it reminded him of the Pharasees conversation with YShua when they were appalled that YShua did not wash his hands before eating and he told them they cleaned up the outside while their inside was full of hostility and fear.
michael shared a portion of a responsability communication letter from a son to a father about alcohol in their home. As a child a false identity is taken on around self-blame, guilt and shame. This shows up throughout life reflecting the Power Person dynamics. Doing this work brings up lifetime issues and while dealing with the ‘adult’ aspect we must also “take care of the baby”
Acknowledgement of Gail stepping out and doing the work. She thanked michael & jeanie & Dr Tim for being the leaders in her life.
Dr Tim has seen in his practice today who are in gratitude for the changes in their homes and relating to people due to this work in their life.
Gail said there was a 13 year old in her workshop and she felt she at least planted some seeds. michael referenced the movie “I Am Not Ashamed” about the first person killed in the Columbine massacre. Also, the movie “Priceless” about selling girls across the border. If more young people had these tools.
Caller Julie from Oregon, agrees she wishes she had had these tools earlier in life. Thank you Gail for doing your first workshop. Julie wants to start her MindShifters Support Group too. michael reminded her she spoke of doing a musical of the work and he would love to hear it. Jeanie suggested she listed to the song used for the radio show, Mary Redente wrote “Evolve” based on three workshops she attended. Appreciation sent to Mary.
Caller Tracey, said she has been doing wake-up sheets around anger over so many things and realized in all she had not taken responsibility to just ask for what she needed or wanted. She asked michael to read the responsibility communication letter because she knows she needs to do something similar. (michael reads it)