Archived Radio Shows February 2013

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• GUEST HOST:  Dr. Tim Hayes

• An introduction to the reason for this show: responsibility, tools, forgiveness, our true essence – Love
• Rex and Mitzi – go to www.stillpointbreathoflife.com to get information about the Saturday memorial and the Sunday service and workshop
• Opening the mind to allow shifting the mind, questioning versus believing, being aware every moment as we create our reality by what we are focused on
• Examples of information from the CIA website which has much data about how the mindworks to fill in the gaps
• Every pain within us is from our own mental errors
• “Falling in Love Backwards” (Amazon) a new book  recommended by a caller as a help to uncovering dissociated relationship issues
• Living from the present rather than the past
• Choosing sustained incoherence or the coherence of a higher Mind
• “I’m going to die if I’m not right,” a common and strong belief

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• “I wonder” questions and how this practice helps improve the quality of our lives
• The limitations of the mind to “figure it out” and how the forgiveness work leads to a better outcome
• A discussion of the “power person” dynamic as it relates to a caller’s jealousy, fear, sadness, and anger
• A story that illustrates that the advice we give, is the advice we need
• A tool to guide us in how to communicate responsibly – free on this website
• A discussion of the signs of power struggles and how to be aware of and handle them –
• Listen to an audio file free on Dr. Tim’s website, www.ch4cs.com , go to media, click on audio, and find the title “Dr. Hayes reads chapter 1& 2 of Parenting Power Struggle Handbook”

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• Discipline – properly beaten or properly taught? A discussion about violence in our culture and taking responsibility for teaching other skills – “Have you noticed that we don’t make very good choices when we are angry?”
• Regulatory Speech is mostly solidified by the age of 13
• Living in the world and speaking up while we do our own work
• If I have turmoil about something and talk about somebody else, then I am in denial of a part of my carbon based memory that needs healing
• The story of Gandhi, sugar, advice, modeling and children
• Sharing elements of the grieving process for the generations

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• The brainwashing of our children into a mentality of violence
• The balance between guidance of our children and allowing them to make their own choices (which are really the choices the world imposes on them)
• An excellent example of teaching the work to children using a story that resulted from asking Rookha for help, and the continuing growth experiences in the family
• Some wonderful examples of using the worksheet and teaching these concepts and tools to 1st graders  in school
• A story of how learning this work as a 9^th grader prepared a young woman for a fully Human and successful life
• The value and importance of making our children do what they don’t want to do rather than trying to be liked
• To get Dr. Tim’s free handbook on parenting , go to www.ch4cs.com
• Using  the “old lady, young lady” picture to show children that our focus produces the reality we see

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• Creating a mission statement with the family’s last name
• Parents doing their own work and modeling the work moves children toward healing
• Taking the opportunity to do worksheets with children
• Forgiveness is secular
• Modeling for children : what you do is more important than what you say
• Labeling children on the inside, even though you don’t speak it, till affects the child

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• The meaning of “forgive as to your brother”
• To be able to communicate in the chat room, must create a user name and password on Earth Angels/ Blog Talk Radio so that when you log in each day, your name will show up and you will be able to comment back and forth
• Setting limits in response to something that is unacceptable to us and doing our work around our own feelings
• Our reality – internal to the mind, and unique to the person who is experiencing it as it relates to being insulted
• How our perceptions change after clearing (forgiving) our own hostility and fear around another
• How distorting it is when we want someone else to be different, and the “power person” dynamic
• A discussion of propitiation (doing all the right things for the wrong reasons)
• Practical tools for changing your life for the better rather than a philosophical/ theological discussion
• Preventing the need to go to the doctor – proactive management of our stress using the forgiveness tools

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• Connecting to Love as a way to help heal self-loathing and negative thoughts
• We will create negative thoughts out of habit until we change the habit by connecting to Love
• Sending Love to others in pain
• Four “files” parents often give to their children:  Fault, Failure, Hopeless & Helpless
• Getting tools out to children
• Being willing to go through the symptoms of healing
• The attachment to guilt makes guilt  energetically attracted
• Asking Rookha d’Koodsha for help in guiding children into their own insights instead of lecturing

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• Stories of “The White Birds and Black Birds” and the “gift given to the Buddha” from the book, “The Gentle Art of Blessing”
• Video “Stress, Portrait of a Killer” on this website to see the results of positive and negative energy in our lives    
• An explanation of the mass cancelling step in the lower box on the worksheet 
• Rex shares what he learned about regret (the invitation to do something differently); being in the present; feeling our emotions rather than indulging them; and the gifts of Oneness that have resulted from his son’s passing 

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• A discussion of premature positive thinking related to denial, trust, and building a positive foundation
• A question related to Karma and Dharma
• The reality shifts from watching and studying the On Creating Consciously DVD
• Approval and Love; “I’ll show you” or allowing our creativity to guide our creations
• The elemental force that was designed for humans to use
• A discussion about the meaning of forgiveness

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• The new space that has been opened on the planet around processing the death of a loved one
• Worldwide use of these tools, positive feedback, and welcoming support
• A story of the “Michelin” lady that illustrates the layers that cover our true Being
• Hostility and fear are acquired, layer over our Loving essence, and can be removed by the forgiveness process
• The possibility of an intensive being the next step for a caller
• A caller shares the remarkable changes in his life because of putting the pen to the paper over time (doing his forgiveness work using these tools)
• “Sad relegions” as observed by a 7 year old
• It’s the pattern that we are in that tells us that we can’t change but it is not true

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• Dr. Tim invites people who want to start a support group to get in touch with him if they want some guidance
• A new support group is starting in Gainesville, FL on Tue. and Thurs. and a new way of doing a support group
• Definitions of the Aramaic meaning of sin – off the mark, missed the bull’s eye and evil –   missed the target completely. Another definition is “unfinished.”
• Alcoholism – the “Codependence to Interdependence Workshop” would be a wonderful help with this issue and a few spots have opened up in the workshops starting on March 17^th and 29^th (see the schedule of events on this website)
• A discussion of how the meaning of forgiveness was changed, the affects on our body/mind structure, and how true forgiveness really works on our multi-generational data base
• A caller shares how her life has changed since she started this work and how the intensives have been a tremendous support in learning to use the tools
• A discussion of how we’ve been fooled: ” I love you”;  finding someone to love or to love you; forgiving others or ourselves; claiming the identity of a sinner.
• Another caller speaks of the positive aspects of going to intensives (9 or more days at Heartland or other locations)

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• The technology of forgiveness; the multi-generational data base; a true human life
• An explanation of how the March intensives work (see the events schedule on this site for dates)
• A discussion of victimhood or personal power and responsibility as it relates to interviewing a potential therapist
• In depth discussion of fluoride and chlorine in water – see American Water Distillers on EBay if you are looking for a good, inexpensive distiller for drinking water, also important to use a filter in the shower or a whole house filter
• The addictive aspects of sugar vs. cocaine and the effects on our bodies
• Tune in tomorrow for more discussion on water: alkaline and acid, etc

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• A discussion of fraud and mis-representation of fish in markets and stores.
• An in depth discussion of step 5 on the worksheet regarding the goal as ‘driver,’  ‘building’ our reality, and ‘collapsing’ that reality by cancelling the goal
• A few more possible analogies that could be used to explain the dynamics of step 5
• A summary of the process